Couples Therapy

Something has changed in the relationship.

Although he says he loves me, I’m not convinced. Most of the time, he seems wholly checked out of this marriage – appearing uninterested in me or doing anything with me half the time.

But he says he loves me although he NEVER does anything nice and never buys me anything.

It’s ALWAYS about him and satisfying his desires – he’s so selfish. I sometimes wonder if I love him or if I ever loved him, for that matter.

I’ve never been happy in the marriage, and I’m always putting him down. He’s not right for me, and I think we should forget this mess we made. It’s not working for us, but what will I miss out on if we were to split up?

Mr. Right feels like Mr. Wrong.

It’s impossible to be myself around her. In her eyes, I can’t seem to get anything right. I’ve tried to please her, but she never seems satisfied.

She complains about everything, and I get tired of hearing her bitch about every little thing.

I prefer to look at porn over being intimate with her. I know she doesn’t want me to do that, but I can’t help it.

Since my indiscretion, the marriage changed, and she won’t let it go. She seems to hold what I did over my head. I keep trying to convince her that the other person meant nothing to me, but it looks like she’ll never trust me again. Things are not what they used to be.

The party seems over.

So, you’ve been married a while. The fantasy is over, and reality has taken its place.

Your partner is not the person you married. For that matter, you don’t even know who you are either. It’s been a while since you’ve felt yourself.

The two of you seem to drift further apart. Perhaps, you started drifting apart from the start. Maybe it was when you had your first child or finances became an issue in the marriage.

Looking back, you wish you hadn’t jumped into marriage so soon. Maybe, premarital counseling could have helped.

Couples Therapy helps smooth the rough spots.

Marriage is a huge transition. If you are about to get married, premarital counseling can help increase your confidence about what you’re getting into before the wedding bells.

Alternatively, you may have been married for 2 to 20 years and find that the relationship has become a little stale.

The one thing you know is you want your marriage to work. Counseling is a great place to start, even if you’re unsure what you wish to accomplish.

Learn to listen and be heard.

I’ll help you break down the wall dividing you and help you hear what your partner is saying.

Maybe your partner has hurt you. Through counseling, you will find a safe place to cradle that hurt.

You may find it difficult to express all that anger you’ve suppressed for so long, but that anger toward your partner appears in other ways. In counseling, you will learn how to communicate the anger with your spouse and maybe uncover other emotions lying underneath the surface.

Counseling can help you learn how to repair the rupture in the relationship and begin to enjoy each other again.

Let’s work to strengthen the relationship.

I am certified in PrepareEnrich and primarily use this approach when working with premarital couples.

When counseling married couples, I find the Gottman approach helpful. I have currently trained in Gottman I and am finishing training in Gottman II. Gottman can help you rebuild trust and commitment in the relationship.

While working with me, you will learn how to communicate to feel understood and understand your partner. I believe aspects of faith are crucial in marriage, so whatever your beliefs, we can collaborate on how to integrate them into the counseling sessions.

I will help you turn toward one another again, reconnect with each other, and rekindle what was lost. Your hope for your marriage is one phone call away. It takes courage, but all you need to do is call.

I look forward to hearing from you.